Part 1: Trusting God With Relationships ยป In the fall of 2007, I wrote a series for the Boundless blog called "Trusting God With Relationships." At the time, I was single and rapidly approaching my 30th birthday.The series generated hundreds of comments from readers who found themselves in a similar place.Two and a half years later, my life has changed drastically; in the course of nine months, I began dating, became engaged to and married the man God chose for me. 26, 2007 I often notice people becoming uptight when we begin discussing the issue of trusting God with relationships.

Women, do your very best to be receptive to every guy who shows interest. It does mean that you treat men with respect and choose to look for the best in them.

It may also mean being open beyond your comfort zone. I'm suggesting Christian women not rely on worldly dating games, such as playing "hard to get." Certainly you will make yourself unattractive if you throw yourself at the guy, but staunchly refusing to ever reciprocate signs of interest may discourage him.

These tendencies are often based in pride: What you mean is "I deserve to be pursued in the way I THINK a man should pursue me." A lot of healing needs to take place between the sexes. Trusting God with relationships does not mean sitting at home and never interacting with the opposite sex.

But since when did "trusting God" mean "do nothing? But do we sit at home waiting for meals to come to us? Similarly, if you want the job, you apply for the job.

If you want to get involved in your church, you show up at the small group.

And if you want to get married, you take initiative with members of the opposite sex by building healthy relationships with them and either pursuing or being open to pursuit.Men, if you want to get married and the Lord has clearly (or possibly) put a godly woman in your life, do something about it. He met Amber when he first moved there three years ago, and their paths continued to cross. But they may not realize that their negative perceptions of the guys who are not asking them out may be keeping those very guys away.One night a group got together to watch a movie, and Jacob looked at Amber sitting next to him on the couch and thought, They began dating and last month he proposed to her during a team trip to Paris. One male friend described this attitude as "poison." I had to confront this attitude in myself several years ago: My mom recently asked, "So what are you looking for in a guy these days?" My reply was, "I'm not sure, but I know what I'm not looking for." This statement reveals a critical attitude that on further consideration I believe is unbecoming of a Christian woman.Regardless of whether these men are potential mates, I should be considering how I can spur them on to love and good deeds (Hebrews ).As I allow God to replace judgment and criticism with openness and love, I will be nurturing characteristics valuable in a marriage relationship.